Narration
I'd always considered myself trustworthy, but it's safe to say I'm
biased. I assumed trustworthy went with responsible, an idea attributed to me
by my peers when nobody wanted to hold on to the class work for the next day.
After all, if someone considers you responsible, they trust that you can manage
to not lose that lab overnight. But
it didn’t really hit me until that moment – the one where my phone vibrated, I grabbed
it and found a hurt and angry text from my best friend – that trust doesn’t
always mean being the responsible one. Sometimes it’s just about being the one
they know they can go to.
Description
They sit in silence, eyes meeting in the midnight darkness
of the car. There’s something almost tangible between them, but it isn’t the
usual lust of teenage sexuality. It’s something more, something subtle, yet
important. He reaches across the console and comfortably places his hand on her
knee, feeling the coarse fabric of her jeans under his fingertips. She intertwines
their fingers, finding words unnecessary when being with him is this natural.
It’s an understanding that brings peace, knowing that neither would try to hurt
the other. He can see it in her eyes as she gazes out the window, smiling to
herself.
Example
Trust fall: the age-old game where we determine that peers
are indeed strong enough to catch our falling bodies, making them inevitably
trustworthy. Does it actually function as a team-building game, inspiring
future conversations of depth between classmates? Not last time I checked, but
allowing yourself to hurdle to the ground at approximately 9.8 m/s does encourage the hope that your
classmates care enough to pay attention. And hey, maybe preventing one another
from cracking your skulls open on the cold concrete can build trust between
people.
Comparison/Contrast
It’s one of those things you can’t see or feel. Unlike love,
which is blatantly obvious – too much PDA in the hallway, the nasty
really-we-can-separate-our-limbs-when-we-go-to-class approach to relationships –
but can also be subtle – a slight touch on the back, they way they smile at
each other as they leave – trust isn’t visible. Sure, you can play games where
you torture one another into falling on someone else, but that doesn’t happen
in everyday life. Trust is practically tangible, but it goes unnoticed; it’s the
way people confide in one another, not in how they attack each other in the
halls. Although it very well could be.
Process Analysis
Trust isn’t given from the start; humans are wary of one
another – as they rightly should be – and trust must be earned. It often starts
with a friendship, a scary circumstance, or a sentimental moment. From this
point, one decides if the other is worth their time. If so, the individual
proceeds with caution, testing the waters of trust as one trusts the cold lake
in the summer. If the water proves warm enough, the individual proceeds, but if
the water is too cold, the individual retreats to the safety of the beach. This
process is repeated throughout the relationship.
Division of Analysis
Trust takes years to build up, but it can be torn down in
seconds. Because of the fragile nature of this idea, one must look at the
relationship between the trust-er and the trustee, the ways one has proved
himself or herself worthy of trust, the content to which one is privy, and the
amount of times the trust-er and trustee have had to re-initiate the trust between
them.
Classification
When one thinks of trust, one often thinks of the trust
required for life-altering secrets to be kept secret. If feeling spontaneous,
one might take the playful approach and think of the dumb games required in
classrooms to build the artificial hi-please-don’t-drop-me-okay-good-I-lived trust.
Trust is deep, artificial, genuine, wary, and shallow, but it is always
necessary in relationships.
Cause and Effect
Say there was no trust on the face of this earth. In short,
all hell would break loose. It would be each man for himself, every individual
believing that help from others was malevolent, designed to throw him/her off
track for their own personal gain. Human relationships would go down the toilet
(but watch out…perhaps the toilet has a plan of its own to take over the
world). Humans would become wary, selfish beings, focused only on their own
goals, blind to the needs of others.
Definition
Trust is what makes up our relationships. It is what defines
us as human beings; friends are chosen based on trustworthiness, and information
is shared based on who has what amount of trust. Trust can be the deep-seated
secrets that are shared to unburden oneself, or it can be the casual “Don’t
worry, you look great!” from a friend that keeps one together on a rough day.
Almost tangible, it exists in our world without acknowledgement until it is
gone. It takes years to form, but is fragile and can be broken within seconds.
Argumentative/Persuasive
We trust individuals for individual reasons. The best friend
that always has your back, the sister that tells you your outfit is hideous,
the teacher that encourages your learning in a positive manner – each person
has a reason to be trusted that is different from another. While these are all
prime examples, some argue that we cannot trust everyone. Why, sure you can!
You can trust the spiteful girls to be catty, the intelligent students to have
the right answers (most of the time), the babies to cry. We trust one another –
for different reasons – without realizing it.
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